Tuesday, September 9, 2008

Minding Your P’s & Q’s on Chat

2 Sept 2008

Make sure you listen as much as you talk. Resist the temptation to spill any dirty details about your ex. Don’t dive into dinner until both your meals have been served. Pretty simple, huh? That’s because these everyday examples of real-world dating etiquette are so common they’re like breathing for most of us. But how does dating etiquette translate into making the right impression when you record a phone chat message? Check out our top tips below…

  • Cheat Sheet : Feeling a little nervous about leaving your inaugural voice recording ? Relieve the pressure with a handy cheat sheet. Simply jot down some easy-to-remember notes to help avoid any awkward silences.

  • The Basic 411 : Your message should capture the basics. Share details like your general build (slim, couple of extra pounds); hair colour; the kind of relationship you want (casual dating, relationship intimate encounter etc.) and work in a little quip that captures your best features (e.g. your sense of humour).

  • Wants, Needs & More : Go ahead, talk about what you want. In general terms. Share some basic information about yourself, but hold back on divulging any deep dark secrets. This might be a good time to share your top three “must have” relationship or dating criteria . For example, if a pet is a potential deal-breaker, now might be a good time to work it into the conversation.

  • Dirty Talk : Unless you’re after an intimate encounter or prefer a ride on the wild side , it’s probably best to keep your frilly little verbal nothings safely stored in your subconscious. We’re all for spicing things up, but early phone chat etiquette reveals it best to keep dirty talk to a minimum.

  • Me, Myself & I : Remember the goal is to learn more about your would-be date . If you feel like you’re revealing too much or that your voice recording could lead to more of a monologue than a dialogue, refer to that handy cheat sheet.

  • Mumblers & Low Talkers : How frustrating would it be to get a message from a would-be date that you need an interpreter to dissect? Even if you’re the next hottest thing , a hard-to-understand recording will take the sizzle out of the spicy you instantly. Remember to speak clearly and calmly. Take the time to review your recording .

  • All Talk, No Action : You’re probably thinking—“I’m making a voice recording where’s the action in that?” Here’s the deal: instead of talking about how laid back your lifestyle is or waxing poetic about your passion for running…work in a quick story that makes this point. For example, you could talk about your Saturday morning newspaper & coffee routine. Or share all the details about your latest race.