Personal Profiles: Make it a Message to RememberAt some time in our lives, we’ve all had stage fright. Making that first call, or leaving your first online chat voice message, can take you right back to that moment. It’s time to warm-up those cold feet! Really, it’s so much easier (and fun!) to leave a chat message than to present in front of a zillion people. For one thing, you can always re-record your greeting. Hey, not too many things in life come with an instant replay!
First things first, think of your voice message as personal marketing 101 . There are a lot of other daters vying for your potential date’s attention. That means your message has to separate you from the crowd. What makes you unique and desirable? Did your potential match say anything in his/her profile that caught your attention? If you can, without sounding too practiced, include this personal tidbit from their message in your voice recording. That way, you start to form a connection…even before you have a 1-on-1 conversation .Do avoid the rambling foot-in-mouth-message. Be confident and precise. Got a mini-list of must-have dating criteria ? This might be a good time to discreetly work a couple of these points into your message. Be honest, clear and direct about who you are, gently suggesting what you might be after. Whatever you do, don’t forget who you’re talking to…a potential date .
With that in mind, put any talk about an ex on ice. That goes double for details about a past relationship, lovers or even the spat you had last night with your mother/sister/brother. Remember, this is your first introduction to this date , make sure you leave the right impression. On that note, consider inserting a little “teasin’ & pleasin” into your message . Reveal something about yourself that shows the cute, funny, quirky, adventurous (you fill in the blank!) side of ou.Don’t forget the closer: invite him/her to contact you . It can be as simple as, “Interested in learning more? Get in touch.”; “Hey, I’d love to hear from you.”; “Leave me a message and we can connect for a chat.” How you say it is completely up to you, but the final invite just may put all the pieces together for you.
Next-up: Your personal guide to exploring the Live 1-on-1 chat.